Dream wedding blues...

Million dollar dress, made out of British pounds [Expensive but not all that pretty]

The Bhm sisterhood recently debated this issue, and it became quite obvious that this area invokes a lot of strong opinions. Most women talk about their dream wedding (and dream dress), and how important it is for everything to be perfect no matter how much it costs. The debate was focused on brides who feel the need to spend a fortune to make their dreams come true even if it puts them in serious debt for many years to come.

On one hand, I perfectly understand a bride's desire to have a fairy tale experience for her wedding day. Its more than fair for her to spoil herself on at least one day of her life. People spend equally large amounts of money on other 'frivolous' things that they can't afford, why can't a bride spend her own hard earned money (or hard plastic) on making her day a dream come true?

On the other hand, my question is, if you've already found the perfect man, why is it so important to spend far more than you can afford knowing full well that it will take at least three lifetimes to pay everything back? When I meet bridezillas who wont crack a smile unless everything is absolutely positively perfectly expensive, I start to wonder if maybe (just maybe) they're missing the whole point of the wedding.  

Frankly a real fashionista, knows it doesn't matter how much you spend, its more about having a discerning eye and the ability to find stunningly stylish options even at a thrift store. Believe it or not, a wedding can be chic, stylish, fashion forward,  and have a large guest list without costing the earth. The way I see it, money can't buy style and thats my bottom line.  Now you've heard my opinion on the matter,  you can weigh in and share your ideas too. To splurge or not to splurge? What sayest thou?